Do You Feel Disconnected From Your Partner?
Couples Therapy Using the Gottman Method | Virtual Sessions for NY, NJ & MA
The busyness of life has gotten in the way. The conversations feel surface-level. The connection that brought you together feels distant. You're both going through the motions, but something essential is missing.
Maybe you're arguing more. Maybe you're barely talking at all. Either way, you know something needs to change.
You don't have to navigate this alone. Couples therapy can help you rebuild trust, improve communication, and restore the sense of connection that feels lost.
When Connection Feels Out of Reach
Relationships go through seasons. Sometimes the disconnection creeps in slowly—busy schedules, unspoken resentments, old patterns that keep resurfacing. Other times, it's a sudden rupture that leaves both of you unsure how to move forward.
You might be experiencing:
Feeling unheard or misunderstood by your partner
The same arguments happening over and over
Emotional distance or lack of intimacy
Difficulty communicating without it turning into conflict
Resentment or hurt that hasn't been addressed
Wondering if you can ever get back what you once had
Questioning whether the relationship can survive
These struggles don't mean your relationship is broken. They mean it's time to do the work—together.
How Couples Therapy Can Rebuild Your Relationship
Couples therapy isn't about assigning blame or deciding who's "right." It's about understanding what's happening beneath the surface, improving how you communicate, and creating a stronger foundation for your relationship.
Using evidence-based approaches including the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Cognitive Behavioral Couples Therapy (CBCT), Solution-Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT), and psychodynamic modalities—we'll work together to:
Improve Communication
Surface arguments are rarely about what they seem. We'll look beyond the conflicts to understand the deeper needs, fears, and patterns driving disconnection.
Uncover the Deeper Issues
Learn how to express what you need, listen without defensiveness, and have conversations that bring you closer instead of pushing you apart.
Strengthen Your Bond
Rediscover what brought you together in the first place. We'll help you nurture friendship, intimacy, and connection in ways that feel authentic to your relationship.
Rebuild Trust and Safety
Whether trust has been broken or simply eroded over time, we'll work on creating emotional safety so both partners feel seen, valued, and secure.
Develop Tools That Last
You'll leave therapy with practical skills to navigate conflict, manage stress, and support each other through life's challenges—long after therapy ends.
Is Couples Therapy Right for You?
Couples therapy might be a good fit if you:
✓ Feel disconnected or emotionally distant from your partner
✓ Struggle to communicate without it turning into an argument
✓ Keep having the same conflicts without resolution
✓ Feel unheard, unseen, or unappreciated
✓ Are navigating a major stressor (job loss, infidelity, parenting challenges, illness)
✓ Want to strengthen your relationship before problems escalate
✓ Are considering separation but want to try therapy first
✓ Both want to work on the relationship together
Important Note: Couples therapy works best when both partners are willing to participate and committed to the process. If you're unsure whether your partner would be open to therapy, start with a free consultation—we can talk through how to approach the conversation.
What to Expect in Couples Therapy
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We'll talk about what brings you both to therapy, what you're hoping to work on, and what a healthy relationship looks like to each of you. This is a safe space for both partners to be heard.
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We'll explore the patterns in your relationship—what's working, what's not, and why certain conflicts keep happening. You'll start to see your dynamics more clearly.
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You'll learn practical communication tools, conflict resolution strategies, and ways to strengthen your emotional connection. These aren't abstract concepts—they're real skills you can use immediately.
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Therapy isn't always comfortable. We'll address hard topics, unpack old wounds, and navigate difficult emotions. But this is where real healing happens.
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As you practice new patterns and rebuild trust, you'll notice your relationship shifting. You'll feel more connected, more secure, and more equipped to handle whatever comes your way.
Supportive, Collaborative Couples Therapy
Jenny Lynn DeSantis, LCSW brings over 20 years of experience helping couples navigate relationship challenges with warmth, humor, and deep expertise in the Gottman Method.
What Sets Jenny Apart:
She meets you where you are. Whether you're in crisis or just want to strengthen your bond, Jenny creates a non-judgmental space where both partners feel heard and valued.
She's trained in the Gottman Method. This research-backed approach gives you proven tools to improve your relationship, not just vague advice.
She's trauma-informed. If past experiences or trauma are affecting your relationship, Jenny understands how to address these issues with care and sensitivity.
She's down-to-earth. Therapy shouldn't feel stuffy or uncomfortable. Jenny brings warmth and often humor to sessions, helping couples feel at ease while doing meaningful work.
Virtual sessions available throughout New York, New Jersey, and Massachusetts, giving you the flexibility to access therapy from wherever you feel most comfortable.
Common Questions About Couples Therapy
How do I get my partner to agree to therapy?
Start by expressing your feelings without blame. Instead of "You never listen to me," try "I feel like we're drifting apart, and I'd like us to work on our connection together." Emphasize that therapy isn't about fixing one person—it's about strengthening the relationship.
What if my partner blames me for all our problems?
That's something we can address in therapy. Part of the work is helping both partners see their role in the relationship patterns. Therapy creates a space where blame shifts to understanding and accountability.
How long does couples therapy take?
It varies. Some couples notice improvement within a few months, while others benefit from longer-term work. We'll regularly check in on progress and adjust as needed.
What if we're considering separation?
Couples therapy can help with that too. It can provide clarity about whether the relationship can be repaired or help you navigate separation with respect and understanding.
Do you take sides?
Never. My role is to support both partners equally and help you both understand each other's perspectives. Therapy is a neutral, safe space for both of you.
Can we do therapy virtually?
Yes! All sessions are conducted online via a secure, HIPAA-compliant platform. Virtual therapy is just as effective as in-person, and many couples prefer the convenience and privacy.
Do you accept insurance?
Yes, we accept most major insurance plans for clients in New York, New Jersey, and Massachusetts. We also offer private pay and sliding scale options for those with financial need.
Your Relationship Deserves This
The connection you once had doesn't have to stay lost. With the right support, you can rebuild trust, improve communication, and rediscover what brought you together in the first place.
Whether you're navigating a rough patch or want to strengthen your bond before problems escalate, couples therapy can help you create the relationship you both deserve.
You don't have to do this alone. Let's work on it together.